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Everyone is affected by
stress differently. In fact, what might be stressful to one
person, may not feel stressful to someone else at all. No
matter how much we love our grandchildren and are willing or
even eager to raise them, our lives have changed and with
major changes come stress. Stress may be caused by a lack of physical resources (e.g. money, daycare, housing, or even food), a lack of emotional support, or our own physical health. Stress that is not dealt with
effectively can cause or increase physical and mental health problems.
As we grow older, we may already be dealing with
deteriorating health issues. The last thing we need is for
our health to worsen because of unrelieved stress.
is no simple answer to managing stress. The solutions may
vary, as widely as there are differences in people and
situations. However, there is one simple word that should
always be remembered, that is
Balance. As we take on the extra responsibility
of raising more children, it is very easy to let our lives
get out of balance. We may find our lives and emotions
swinging from one end of the pendulum to the other. It is
true that we must do our best to meet the needs of our
grandchildren, but we must also take care of ourselves, or
we will not be in a position to take care of the children at
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we consider the events in our lives that are causing us the most stress, we must
decide what we can change and what we cannot change. Once we decide what we can
change, then we can come up with solutions to make appropriate changes that will
make our lives easier. For those situations that we cannot change at all, we
then can discover ways that will help us cope. The following are ideas that
should be remembered no matter what our situations.
- Always put our own physical and
emotional health at the top of the list. Proper exercise,
relaxation, a healthy diet, limited alcohol, enjoyable
activities, and humor are all important to consider as we
are dealing with major changes in our lives.
- We must not be embarrassed to ask
for help. We must learn that we cannot do everything
ourselves. That is a lesson I am still learning.
- We need support, so find a local
support group, church family, or good friends who
- Find out what services are
available in our own communities including financial,
legal, educational, and free or low cost counseling.
- Whether we have a specific
religious affiliation or not, finding our own spiritual
connection to God or a Higher Power can help us deal with
our own daily challenges.
Menopause, now that is STRESS!
Worrying adds to
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